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11:34 p.m. - Saturday, May. 07, 2011 She had gone on a similar journey as I underwent a few years ago . . .looking for physical touch, love . . .finding it in these gay erotic masseurs. She wrote a book about it, and two of the men in her book were men that I had also met. And here she was, signing books in my town . . .a relatively remote town . . .I mean, what are the odds? I HAD to see her. The Universe brought her here. So I shyly approached her table and told her a little bit about my experience, and asked if she would sign my book. I loved the way she called me "sweetheart" . . .I loved the way she looked, the way she spoke. I wanted to hug her. And that's when I realized . . . All this time, I thought I was trying to iron out this sexual stuff . . .this post-traumatic stress from an abusive relationship and some self-hating bad decisions which followed. Thinking I was choosing gay men because they were safe ways to experience that touch I was craving. But that's not what it was at all. I didn't want sex, that's true. I wanted nurturing. I wanted love. I wanted a mother. My mother is an amazing woman. Strong, stable, inspiring superwoman. But private. Guarded with her emotions. A friend of mine killed himself a couple of years ago. When I came home for the funeral, she sent me for a manicure . . .when what I wanted was a hug. I take after her. So I conditioned myself to not need nurturing and care. But maybe this is my ah-ha moment. All this time I've been searching for a man to do what only a woman can. Hug me like a mother. � � |